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12 Tips for When Co-Parents Move On to New Relationships

transitions11 • January 28, 2016

Statistics show that 80% of men and 70% of women remarry within 5 years post divorce. Here are some tips for parents on how to make sure children can adjust comfortably when parents move on and introduce new relationships into the family.

 

  • When beginning the dating process take it slow, consider your own needs to heal from your past marriage and your child’s needs to heal

 

  • The best and most appropriate time to begin dating is when the child is spending time with their other parent. Honor your parenting time with your child and be alone with your child.

 

  • Approach any new relationship with a “friends only” position. Be cautious about jumping into a serious relationship too soon. Save alone time for yourself and plenty of time to be alone with your child.

 

  • Be aware of your own vulnerability and loneliness that could cloud your vision and result in making a poor choice regarding a new partner.

 

  • Your child is fearful of “losing” you to a new “love.” Be sure that you are serious about someone before introducing them to your children.

 

  • Because children can be easily confused about adult relationships, it is not wise to move in with a non-family member of the opposite sex, even if it is a platonic relationship.

 

  • When you do tell your child about your new relationship, do it when you are alone with your child, without the new partner present, in order for them to talk freely about how they feel.

 

  • Proceed slowly when including your new partner in family events because your children need the special time they share with you alone on these occasions.

 

 

  • Keep private time alone with your new partner PRIVATE. A child can feel left out when their parent is holding hands, snuggling or kissing someone other than their other parent. Until you actually remarry, this is best left out of family time.

 

  • Treat your co-parent with dignity and respect and avoid making comments on their own new partner or lifestyle.

 

 

  • Make certain that your new partner does not step into a “parenting” role for your child nor attempt to replace their other parent. Your child will begin their own friendship relationship with them. Your new partner should never be involved in disciplining your child or routinely left to care for them while you are otherwise engaged.

 

  • Be careful not to let your new partner set the rules for you OR for your children. If you plan to remarry, invest in some pre-marital blended family counseling with a therapist skilled in blended families. It is important for your children that you move slowly, confidently and unified into a new family structure.

 

 

 

 

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